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How are you feeling ?

Post by fastbob » Wed Oct 14, 2020 8:30 pm

I didn't really know what section to put this in so I've stuck it where more are likely to see it . So , I'll get the ball rolling . How's your Mental Health ? Is the weirdness of the last seven months impacting on your general well-being or maybe you're just experiencing Seasonally Affected Depression ( SAD ) ? It's not as if we can lose the cares of a shit day by nipping out on the bike for an hour now that winter is upon us . So if anyone would like to talk about their Mental Health issues past and present here's a chance to sound off . I would only ask that we try to keep it constructive and respectful . There are plenty of other opportunities to rip the piss to be found elsewhere on here .

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Re: How are you feeling ?

Post by Bender » Wed Oct 14, 2020 8:43 pm

:thumb:

Nice thread Bob.

Everyone deals with things differently, I was unfortunate enough to have had a lot of Shite for want of a better phrase early on in my life so these days it puts most things into perspective, but if anyone feels like unburdening there woes to a bunch of strange folk on the Internet as fraiser said

Were listening.
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Re: How are you feeling ?

Post by KiwiBob » Wed Oct 14, 2020 9:28 pm

Well, I can say that this covid crap IS getting me down! .. I wouldn't class it as depression but I know I'm not the same.

Sleep patterns disturbed, always tired and struggling to get motivated to do anything.

I think its not knowing when things will get better and not really being able to plan things that's getting to me.

Anyway, I'm lucky in that I'm retired and financially OK, so non of the worries that some of the younger ones have about redundencies etc.

I know I'll be ok .. I just want to feel motivated to do things again.

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Re: How are you feeling ?

Post by husoi » Wed Oct 14, 2020 9:29 pm

I've been weird all my life so not much difference there :lol:
All my food only eat vegetables. So, I'm an indirect vegetarian :cool:

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Re: How are you feeling ?

Post by fastbob » Wed Oct 14, 2020 9:38 pm

KiwiBob wrote:
Wed Oct 14, 2020 9:28 pm
Well, I can say that this covid crap IS getting me down! .. I wouldn't class it as depression but I know I'm not the same.

Sleep patterns disturbed, always tired and struggling to get motivated to do anything.

I think its not knowing when things will get better and not really being able to plan things that's getting to me.

Anyway, I'm lucky in that I'm retired and financially OK, so non of the worries that some of the younger ones have about redundencies etc.

I know I'll be ok .. I just want to feel motivated to do things again.
I'm the same . I'm really struggling to get motivated at the moment . It isn't exactly depression because I'm reasonably cheerful . It's more like suppression .

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Re: How are you feeling ?

Post by KiwiBob » Wed Oct 14, 2020 9:56 pm

fastbob wrote:
Wed Oct 14, 2020 9:38 pm
KiwiBob wrote:
Wed Oct 14, 2020 9:28 pm
Well, I can say that this covid crap IS getting me down! .. I wouldn't class it as depression but I know I'm not the same.

Sleep patterns disturbed, always tired and struggling to get motivated to do anything.

I think its not knowing when things will get better and not really being able to plan things that's getting to me.

Anyway, I'm lucky in that I'm retired and financially OK, so non of the worries that some of the younger ones have about redundencies etc.

I know I'll be ok .. I just want to feel motivated to do things again.
I'm the same . I'm really struggling to get motivated at the moment . It isn't exactly depression because I'm reasonably cheerful . It's more like suppression .
Yes, .. I'm not unhappy or sad .. Just down ... Probably just need the batteries changing!

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Re: How are you feeling ?

Post by Trooper74 » Wed Oct 14, 2020 9:57 pm

We have lots of issues in our life which should lead to depression and sadness ... so i'm told by every Wellbeing and Mental Health programme on the media ...
But we're ok ..
Daughters a 20 year heroin and cocaine addict, sons gay but went through a phase of transitioning to Kate before his friends on the Nottingham scene, in Rotherham and his family helped him find his way back to John... and his life partner Zac ..
Our daughters children are in our care, permanently... and we have a 2 year old boy we have shared care with, we took his cocaine addicted mother off the streets ( very pregnant girl sleeping in a doorway in Rotherham, we couldn't leave her there ) and cared for her during her 3rd trimester ... and took care of the little bundle from 11 days old until he got his forever family at 9 months.

My wifes convinced i have ptsd from my time in the forces ...

But how are we feeling ....

We live in a bubble of love, tears are accepted without question, if i start to crack one of the children will give me a snuggle and we all pull together .. again ...

I cycle as my blow off valve ... Jules sews .. the children, 1 very nearly an adult, have their own coping mechanisms ..


Social Services, CAMHS, Early Help have come and gone ...

It's not how we ever saw our lives in our 60's ...


We're good ............. for now ....
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Re: How are you feeling ?

Post by winston smith » Wed Oct 14, 2020 10:26 pm

Excellent post Bob 👍

The mental health of the people is a real concern - it's generally invisible cos we all put on a front and are loathed to admit any problems in that area due to the stigma attached.

Being low level on the asd spectrum, with anxiety and depression can make life challenging; and probably has a lot to do with me choosing to be both self employed and a motorcycle rider - I "need" the freedom and control that they give.
So, 2020 has been a bit of a mish-mash...
On the one hand I am very fortunate to have had about 70-75% of my regular work/income thought the Covid shambles ( after November and December last year with just about zero income) ......rent, bills, food all covered - all good ☺️
On the other hand, my bike shit the bed in February and has sat forlornly unused since then and most likely will end up being scrapped or sold for spares, cos I can't mentally get in the the right place to tackle the issues with it.😞

As far as covid goes - at the start the big effect on me was working away from home 3-4 days a week getting proper hot food & basic supplies, a daily shower and even open toilets was often impossible. Now I'm constantly being treated like a leper cos I don't wear a face nappy - beyond that it hasn't really affected me.

Of course, along the way there have been a thousand other highs and lows, but without rambling on for an hour this sort of sums things up.

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Re: How are you feeling ?

Post by rennie » Wed Oct 14, 2020 10:27 pm

Good Thread! :thumb:

We're plodding along! got a bit down last week but so far it never lasts long with me.

Lots of uncertainty at the moment ! work, kid's work, Sue's Dad's bungalow still hasn't sold,
My Son's wedding looks like it ain't going to happen etc etc.

But we're still managing the odd laugh or at least smile
and we're still breathing :lol: :thumb:
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Re: How are you feeling ?

Post by onesea » Wed Oct 14, 2020 10:45 pm

I'm fine not under stress but not depressed, the Dr told me a couple of weeks back.

If anyone knows how to stop a decade of fighting (good news is I should be passed the 1/2 way point) with an X wife mine will be much better...

Usual things access (yes there is a court order) maintenance (yes the CMS (new CSA) are involved) she still does not stop...

As for the effect of Covid for me work has gone on we just wear masks and silly suits from time to time. Access stopped for 2 months (I know that should not happened) and maintenance still got paid the arguments did not stop either...
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Re: How are you feeling ?

Post by Bender » Wed Oct 14, 2020 11:01 pm

@onesea chinup, been there wouldn't want to go back, time passes and I now no longer have to talk to the ex, light at the end of the tunnel no matter how far away it seems.
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Re: How are you feeling ?

Post by S-Westerly » Wed Oct 14, 2020 11:01 pm

Last lockdown was bad, my wife went off the deep end and was hospitalised for a month. No visiting allowed. Stressed everybody to hell and gone.
I'm at sea now and building up a store of pure rage which I have to really fight to manage as I don't want to lash out at someone who doesn't deserve it. When I do get home and if we're in any kind of lockdown I'll be stressed out.
The weird thing is this isn't normal for me at all. Normally I'm pretty easy going and work on the basis of "if I can't do anything about it then there's no point stressing about it". Maybe it's age catching up with me?
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Re: How are you feeling ?

Post by Trooper74 » Wed Oct 14, 2020 11:09 pm

onesea wrote:
Wed Oct 14, 2020 10:45 pm
I'm fine not under stress but not depressed, the Dr told me a couple of weeks back.

If anyone knows how to stop a decade of fighting (good news is I should be passed the 1/2 way point) with an X wife mine will be much better...

Usual things access (yes there is a court order) maintenance (yes the CMS (new CSA) are involved) she still does not stop...

As for the effect of Covid for me work has gone on we just wear masks and silly suits from time to time. Access stopped for 2 months (I know that should not happened) and maintenance still got paid the arguments did not stop either...
Many years ago on a planet far away ...
I gave my ex everything, i rode away on a Honda CJ 250, a yellow one, and a rucksack on my back ..... gave her the house, car the lot ... because it's just stuff.
32 years later ... I have riches beyond the imagination, my wife, children everywhere who love me, call me Dad and Grandad, without a single genetic link.
A house, a ratty old camper van, an old but good caravan in Cornwall .. MOTORBIKES .... our new stuff.. our family stuff ...

Give her the lot and start again .... it's just stuff ...
If it leaves you with nothing .... then fine, start again and leave the pain behind you ...
Move on ... because the "YOU" without stress or baggage will love again ... And smile ...
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Re: How are you feeling ?

Post by Bender » Wed Oct 14, 2020 11:14 pm

Marcus Tullius Cicero
Six mistakes mankind keeps making century after century:
Believing that personal gain is made by crushing others;
Worrying about things that cannot be changed or corrected;
Insisting that a thing is impossible because we cannot accomplish it;
Refusing to set aside trivial preferences;
Neglecting development and refinement of the mind;
Attempting to compel others to believe and live as we do.
Bite my shiny metal ass..

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Re: How are you feeling ?

Post by Trooper74 » Wed Oct 14, 2020 11:28 pm

Bender wrote:
Wed Oct 14, 2020 11:14 pm
Marcus Tullius Cicero
Six mistakes mankind keeps making century after century:
Believing that personal gain is made by crushing others;
Worrying about things that cannot be changed or corrected;
Insisting that a thing is impossible because we cannot accomplish it;
Refusing to set aside trivial preferences;
Neglecting development and refinement of the mind;
Attempting to compel others to believe and live as we do.
Here's the 7th;
Not understanding the difference between, suggesting, advising and compelling.
:lol:
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